Everybody gets angry some times, but out-of-control anger isn't good for you and can have devastating consequences that impact personal lives, work, and studies.
What is Anger?
Anger is a result of thinking that we have been unfairly treated or disrespected, or that others have broken or fallen short of our expectations. Thinking this way leads to feeling angry, which stimulates the body's adrenaline ('fight or flight' ) response. As a result some behaviors of anger include: staring & angry facial expressions, aggressive body stance, saying things that you don't mean, physical altercations, arguing, shouting, snapping, running away, and/or staying silent. While frustration and anger can be a healthy and natural response to inescapable problems in our lives, if it is negatively impacting you or someone you care about, it may be a problem.
Three Strategies To Control Anger
1. Stop. Identify Your Feelings - Anger is an emotion that often hides feelings of injustice, hurt, disappointment, and jealousy. When you notice anger, frustration, or irritation, STOP. Sort through your feelings of anger, frustration or irritation to see what might be beneath your emotions before acting out in anger.
2. Focus On Your Needs - Have you ever wondered why you're so angry? When you’re feeling angry, it’s often because there’s something you need and that need is not being met. Instead of getting angry at another person or situation, focus on yourself instead and say, “What do I need right now that’s not getting taken care of? And ask yourself, "How can I start taking care of it right now?”
3. Exercise - Physical activity is a great way to release anger. Engaging in physical activity stimulates the brain to release endorphins which cause feelings of happiness. Next time you feel irritated, go out for a brisk walk, a jog, or swim. Find a healthy activity that works for you. Alternatives include giving yourself a timeout (Yes, like when you were a kid!) Play cards, read a book, take a yoga class.
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